Using Books to Instill Character

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I giddily look forward to the first Wednesday of each month, because I have the privilege of sharing life with a group of amazing women. Recently, we have been reading through Love As a Way of Life by Gary Chapman. Essentially, this book has taken us through seven character traits including: Kindness, patience, forgiveness, honor, humility, generosity, and honesty. When these character traits are put into action, it naturally demonstrates authentic love. This is something that everyone can benefit from.

Character training starts at home and should begin early.

One of the best ways to teach character is to surround your children with good literature. Simply put, read to your kids. When you read to your children, it opens the door for conversations to ensue. Stories have the ability to teach, motive, and inspire our children to dream bigger.

There are so many wonderful books that can help teach our children about love, honor, respect, fairness, caring and responsibility. Below is a resource, that I compiled, to help you discover some great websites and books.

TEACHING CHARACTER Through Books

Character is the inward values that determine outward actions; the mental model used for making decisions; the moral compass that guides your choices; who we are when no one else is watching.

Below are numerous resources regarding character that has somehow benefited my family and me.  Please know that while I have enjoyed these resources I do not necessarily agree with ALL content presented. While some authors may be extremely conservative or liberal,  I read seeking what I feel the Holy Spirit has convicted me to implement for the Werner family and I trust you will do the same.
Character First This is one of my family’s favorite resources especially as my girls began school. I continue to use the character booklets.
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  • Instruction for Righteousness is a topical reference guide for biblical child training.
  • Polished Cornerstones
  • The If-Then Chart
  • The Blessing Chart
  • The Go To The Ant Chart – understanding diligences and laziness.
  • The Brother Offender Chart – teaching children conflict resolution in a Godly way.
  • Be sure to check out the package deals.
Character in Action I have not personally used this website but I did look it over and it has great content.
Family Ministries   by Reb Bradley You will find many available products so I have listed below the resources that have personally benefited me.

  • Child Training Tips What, I wish I knew when my children were young.
  • The Delightful Family
  • Managing the Mouth: Victory over complaining, arguing, and other poisons of the tongue.
  • Motives of the Heart.  A biblical study on pride and humility.  This seriously was life changing.
  • Teaching Children to Love One Another
  • Creating A Strong Family Identity
  • God, TV, and Your Family
Family Life Today Encouragement and practical help for you personally, for your marriage, and raising your parenting. So many great articles and resources.
Focus on the Family
  • Kids of Integrity tools for growing Godly character.
  • Kids Clubhouse
  • Adventures in Odyssey
  • Focus on the Family has lots of wonderful family resources.  Catch their daily message via the Internet.
Institute in Basic Life Principles
Lamplighter Publishing The mission of Lamplighter Ministries is “to make ready a people prepared for the Lord, by building Christ-like character one story at a time.” This is a wonderful resource for parents on Character Development born out of 25 years of research and personal experience. They carry many old and rare books highlighting various character traits.
Whole Heart Ministries Clay and Sally Clarkson I am bias as I adore this ministry given Sally has been my mentor from afar since 1997. Five years ago she became my real life friend 😉  My husband and I serve on the board of WHM and recommend all of their resources Whole Heartily.

 

CBDAmazon Other Misc. books and resource titles I’ve enjoyed. I usually shop at CBD, Amazon, and Half Price Books.  Keep a list of resources you desire as you can find really good deals at Goodwill, yard sales, home school used book sales, etc…

  • Wise Words for Little People by Kenneth Taylor (preschool age)
  • Big Thoughts for Little People by Kenneth Taylor  (preschool age)
  • Berenstain Bears  (preschool age)
  • Jungle Jam and Friends The Radio Show (listen free weekly) or buy CD’s (all ages)
  • Adventure in Odyssey Radio Talk Show by Focus on the Family (elementary age)
  • Veggie Tales (videos) (all ages)
  • Uncle Arthur’s Story Time These are classic stories that help children develop positive character traits and Christian values.  Hard to find but worth having.  Children as young as 2 will listen to and enjoy the Story Time.  Stories can be shorten.
  • Choice Stories for Children by Ernest Lloyd I am not sure if you will be able to find it.
  • Day by Day Devotion by Karen Henley
  • A Hive of Busy Bees 5-10 by AB Publishing
  • Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character… In You and Your Kids by Scott Turansky
  • While They are Sleeping: 12 Character Traits to Pray for Your Child by Ann Arkins, Gary Harrell
  • God’s Wisdom for Little Boys by Elizabeth George
  • God’s Wisdom for Little Girls by Elizabeth George
  • Young Peacemakers Series by Corlette Sande   FORGIVENESS Recommended for grades 3-7
  • Proverbs People: Book 1 and 2 by Rick Boyer
  • Books That Build Character: A Guide to Teaching Your Child Moral Values Through Stories by Robert Coles.
  • A Child’s Book of Character by Ron Coriell
  • Read For The Heart, Whole Books For Wholehearted Families by Sarah Clarkson  (A Great Resource when decided on books to read and purchase.≠)
  • A Little Book of Manners for Girls by Emily Barnes
  • A Little Book of Manners for Boys by Emily Barnes
  • Wisdom and the Millers by Mildred A Martin

Using Biographies and books about Christian hero’s to teach Character.

  • Hero Tales volume 1, 2, & 3 by Dave & Neta Jackson
  • Trailblazer Series by Dave & Neta Jackson
  • Christian Heroes, Then & Now by Janet & Geoff Benge (YWAM Publishing)
  • The Sowers Series

Please share books and resources that your family has found helpful.  If you would like a PDF of the recommended resources leave me your email and I will send it to you.

 

 

Lovingly Lavishly, Let The Journey Begin

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Since 2011 I have been on an intense love journey.  My desire has been to be an authentic and over the top lover of others. This quest has driven me to better understand what love is and isn’t in order to love well. Earnestly I’ve petitioned God to reveal love to me only to see some extraordinary exhibits of love by others. Love is not merely an emotions it’s an action.  I’ve come to realize that the key to finding joy in loving others is found in giving it away without any strings attached or hidden expectations. Ha! it’s amazing how when we focus on loving others we receive so much more in relationships. This search has lead me to read various books about love.

  • The Bible, searching out the various verses on love
  • Love Is A Decision by Gary Smalley
  • Love Does by Bob Goff
  • Love Is A Verb and The Five Love Languages by Gray Chapman
  • Crazy Love Francis Chan
  • Compelled by Love by Heidi and Roland Baker

If you have any recommendations please share them with us.

One book that has resonated with me and I’m actually reading it a third time, is Love As A Way of Life, Seven Keys to Transforming Every Aspect of Your Life by Gary Chapman. Wow! I have found so much to glean from this book.   On 2/5/14 I began a book study with the precious moms group I am humbled to share life with.  Also my twelve-year-old daughter and I are going through the book together.  My hope is others will join me on this journey sharing their insights, why?

Love is applicable and transcends ALL of our relationships.

Dr. Chapman identifies the following seven characteristics of a loving person.  I will delve into each character trait focusing on two traits monthly giving some time to implement each trait. I hope you will share your stories.

  • Kindness – February
  • Patience – March
  • Forgiveness – March
  • Courtesy – April
  • Humility – April
  • Generosity – May
  • Honesty – May

Many life stories of ordinary folks are included in each chapter to show how simple it is to love others. Please share your personal stories at Loving Lavishly. You will also find practical ideas on how to develop these characteristics in your own life and I am certain we each have practical ideas to share at Loving Lavishly  It’s easy to read a book and feel discouraged or inadequate but I encourage you to seek God.  Allow Him to highlight the areas where growth could take place. We are all in process.  I’m still learning and growing myself in so many ways.

Join me over at Loving Lavishly, as I will post notes, stories, quotes, and more importantly hope others will share act of lavishly loving others. Together let’s grow in love.

In the book you will find that each chapter contains the following:

  • Questionnaire to challenge you to think through how each traits is shown in your life.
  • Definition is given of each character trait in the context of authentic love.
  • Habits to acquire provides various ways ideas of how to practically apply a particular trait.
  • Competitors are the various things that work against us loving well, such as our emotions, weaknesses, circumstances, etc..
  • What would your relationship be life if … This section is found at the end of each chapter and designed to help you consider how small changes in your relationships can provide positive results.
  • Making it Personal are reflective questions as well as practical ways to implement a character trait.  This is where I hope we will share ways we are being a more loving persons through our actions.

So join me over at Loving Lavishly.  Let’s begin to grow in love together in small ways.