Pain Is Inevitable, but Misery is Optional…

“Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional. We cannot avoid pain, but we can avoid joy.” Tim Hassel

Currently my Energizer Bunny pace has greatly decreased as a result of chronic back pain and an unexpected foot surgery which has me using crutches and an air cast boot for about four weeks.

I am choosing to view this down time as an opportunity to rest, read, and refocus my life direction.  I jokingly have called this season my “half a century tune up,” as I turn fifty in May.  It’s my desire to get my body in better shape so I can be more productive for God’s kingdom work in the years ahead.

James 1:2 Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.

Did you noticed that James used the word “when” and not “if” in regards to trails we will encounter?  Yet so often I am surprised when difficulties come my way.  Honestly my first response to trials is usually not joy but I have learned to look for the joy amidst hard times.

A few things I’m choosing to be joyful for include: God’s word, the availability of my in-laws during this time of need, Cayley’s servants heart, Jon being in town, how quickly I am recovering, the wisdom of my health care providers, health insurance, handicap tags 🙂 , friends, music which eased my pain, etc…

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Tim Hassel said, “Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional. We cannot avoid pain, but we can avoid joy.” In this life it’s a guarantee we will encounter trials whether relationally, financially, physically, mentally, etc..  but how are we, as believers, to handle these trials?  When we respond with joy verses “poor me,” it will cause an unbelieving world to take notice.

I appreciated the wise words of Andrew Murray, who suffered from a terribly painful back injury. I find comfort from the below story.

One morning while he was eating breakfast in his room, his hostess told him of a woman downstairs who was in great trouble and wanted to know if he had any advice for her. Murray handed her a paper he had been writing on and said, “Just give her this advice I’m writing down for myself. It may be that she’ll find it helpful.”

This is what he had written:

“In time of trouble, say,

‘First, He brought me here. It is by His will I am in this strait place; in that I will rest.’

Next, ‘He will keep me here in His love, and give me grace in this trial to behave as His child.’

Then say, ‘He will make the trial a blessing, teaching me lessons He intends me to learn, and working in me the grace He means to bestow.’

And last, say, ‘In His good time He can bring me out again. How and when, He knows.’

Therefore, say ‘I am here (1) by God’s appointment, (2) in His keeping, (3) under His training, (4) for His time.”

How are you responding to the trials in your life this week? Do you find joy in your current trial or are you resentful and angry?  What lessons are you learning or have you learned?  Praying that you choose to find the joy verses misery. Blessings.



The Supernatural Ways of Royalty – A Book Review

Supernatural Ways of Royalty

The Supernatural Ways of Royalty: Discovering Your Rights and Privileges of Being a Son or Daughter of God

If you are seeking a book packed with life giving truth, this is it.  There is no way to fully adsorb the many rich truths found throughout this book. Kris Vallotton’s goal is to demolish the slave mind-set and thrust true believers forward into authentic faith, power, and impact. Supernatural Ways of Royalty (SWR) not only helped me to overcome a poverty and orphan mind-set, but it also helped me to see myself as Father God sees me.  I obtained greater revelation into understanding who I am in Christ and what I am able to accomplish through being identified in Him. Sadly, many Christians have never heard or experienced concisely this freeing truth. I can relate to Kris’s upbringing as mine was similar and he gives me great hope as one does not need to allow their past to define the future for anything is possible.

I saw the importance of learning to value myself, learning to respect myself, learning to believe in myself, and above all learning to love myself.  I saw the importance of renouncing the “pauper mentality” that has held me in bondage and reclaiming my royal heritage as a child of the King of kings! God sees me as His daughter so I must take on His perspective of who I am in Christ. I didn’t realize that my tendency was to focus on who I was prior to becoming a believer.  I was allowing my “past” identity to define me instead of accepting my new identity in Christ.  God’s opinion of me is the only one that truly matters thus I need to get over my pride and condemnation and just agree with God that I am loved and not rejected. Easier said than done.  I am learning to move ahead in more confidence and individuality by understanding plus accepting how God sees me.

Jesus sees us as saints, not sinners. He calls us friends, not slaves. As a believer I was walking around feeling weak, powerless, and stuck in sin.  I didn’t even realize I had such a poverty mentality until I read this book! This mindset affected so much of my life and self worth. Truth helped unmask and transform my thinking!   I also realized how “religious” I was and how much my mindset needed to change to see myself as a daughter, Princess, and queen! Royalty!

When I see myself as God sees me it ignites a passion to pursue a more intimate relationship with Daddy. I need to remember to not allow myself to view what other people are doing in their personal walk with Christ and get discouraged by it. Playing the comparison game is dangerous especially when comparing my relationship with God to someone else’s relationship with Him.  I will seek to be true in my relationship with God and be obedient to what He requires of me.

I still have much thinking and pondering to do in regards to the many new revelations of the Father’s Love from SWR.  Below are just of a few of the wise words for me to continue to ponder.

  • God made people and there is a piece of God in everyone you meet.  Learn to love that piece of God in people.
  • It is wise to ignore the things that will cause your focus to turn negative.
  • You become what you focus on.  Train yourself to NOT focus on what you do not want to be or what you do not like about yourself.  Rather focus your mind on who you are suppose to be and what you are suppose to be doing.
  • You will find great freedom to be yourself when you serve other people.
  • If you violate your relationship with God by doing things that convict you, your relationship will not grow.
  • Learn to love yourself as much as God loves you.  When you do, you will expect people to love you more as they get to know you better! (p. 30)
  • Whenever someone values us more than we value ourselves we tend to sabotage our relationship with that person.  Secretly, we don’t want them to get close enough to find out that we aren’t as good as they think we are.  (p. 30)
  • Paupers have a poverty mentality.  They always feel like their resources are limited.  They believe that when someone else receives something, it takes away some of the provision that could be theirs.  They surmise that someone else’s blessings costs them. (p. 35)
  • Failures we have repented of are no longer the standard that we must bow to.  When we asked God and those we have hurt to forgive us, we are set back up to the high place that God assigned to us. Otherwise, the worst day of our life becomes the highest place that we have the right to lead others to.  The truth is that forgiveness restores the standard of holiness in us and through us. (p. 46)
  • God’s kingdom is not a performance based kingdom.  We don’t lead because we are necessarily the most qualified; we lead because we are “called” to be leaders.  (p. 48)
  • I am to see the people I lead reach their full potential in God.  That means that the greatest compliment we can ever have is when the people we are leading become greater than us.  (p. 48)
  • Suspicion is the gift of discernment being used by the spirit of fear.  It leads to bitterness, unforgiveness, and torment, and it results in our going into a spiritual prison where all guards work for the dark side. The spirits who guard the walls of this prison have names like sickness, depression, hatred, and murder.  (p. 48)
  • Identity doesn’t come from education but from impartation.  We can’t educate ourselves into our identities.  Proper identity comes from the impartation of our heavenly Father speaking to us through the people He has assigned to give oversight to us.  (p. 65)

Indeed these are just a few good words that I found 🙂