20 Social Media Guidelines for Tweens and Teens

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20 Social Media Guidelines for Tweens & Teens thewerners.org

Media affects our ATTITUDE and ACTIONS. Music, books, magazines, TV shows, computer games, apps, and movies are all considered media. If as parents we are to bring up our children in the way of the Lord we must be vigilant in helping them navigate social media choices and usage.

1 Corinthians 10:23 You say, “I am allowed to do anything” – but not everything is good for you.  You say, “I am allowed to do anything” – but not everything is beneficial. 

School is swinging into full gear and routines are being reestablished so as a family we sat down with our thirteen year old daughter and together came up with the following guidelines. We also reviewed which social media apps she is currently using, along with her passwords, history, and did a major reset as we love her and desire to help her make wise media choices.

 20 Social Media Guidelines for Our Family

  1. I will allow my parents to set my privacy settings and parental control settings on all my accounts and will not change these settings without permission.
  2. I will provide my parents with my passwords for all social media accounts and not change passwords without their permissions.
  3. I will never give out personal information (passwords, my name, age, our address, or other personal information) online or by text without my parents’ permission knowing that identity theft is real. I will let my parents know if anyone asks for personal information.
  4. I will get permission to join any social media site or to download software, songs, apps, etc. onto my devices by sending an email to both parents asking for permission. FYI Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter all require children to be at least 13 years old to join because of the “Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act,” which limits companies from collecting personal information about kids under 13. 
  5. I understand that my parents have a right to check my media history on all connected devices.  If I delete any history I will lose media privileges and will let my parents know why I deleted the history.
  6. I will keep the use of connected devices (cell phone, iPad, computer, etc.) in the open and not behind closed doors i.e. bathrooms or my bedroom.
  7. I will charge all media devices outside of my bedroom and not bring them into my room.
  8. I will use connected devices only outside of school time unless discussed beforehand or common sense dictates a need to use.
  9. I will maintain my best effort during the school year and dedicate myself to the extra curricular activities I’m signed up for.
  10. I will keep social media, streaming video, and television use in check. I will follow my parents’ rules regarding time limits for online use.  Remember, the enemy satan came to kill, steal, and destroy. He can defeat us through media distractions by keeping us busy clicking on links, watching funny videos, viewing and liking content.  Ask yourself if how you spend your time is pleasing to God. Matthew 6:33 Seek the Kingdom of God above ALL else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
  11. I will ask for permission before watching sitcoms, movies or videos either online or on the TV even if I must call or text my parents while visiting a friend’s home.
  12. I will not watch TV shows, movies, or play games that are inappropriate. I understand that so long as I live at home my parents have the right to screen all media choices. Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
  13. I will turn my head if any sexual content appears on screen, even kissing. Remember, your eyes take in images that your mind cannot erase so don’t pollute your mind with trash. Garbage in, Garbage out. Song of Solomon 2:7 Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe-and you’re ready.
  14. I will not use the Internet inappropriately to slander, speak negatively, or bully anyone nor will I participate with others doing so.  I will let my parents know if others are unkind or offensive to me. Remember once you post something, you can’t take it back.  Words are powerful and can be used to build up or tear down others so use your words wisely. Exodus 23:2 “You must not follow the crowd in doing wrong.  When you are called to testify in a dispute, do not be swayed by the crowd to twist justice.
  15. I will avoid all chat rooms.
  16. I will alert my parents if I’m sent or come across pornography, anything inappropriate or that makes me feel uncomfortable.
  17. I will ask for permission before sharing photos of family, friends or myself.
  18. I will not listen to any music that has vulgar language or suggestive lyrics. Philippians 4:8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing.  Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable.  Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
  19. I will not read magazines that focuses on gossip, sex, romance, etc.. Philippians 4:8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing.  Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable.  Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
  20. I will agree to ask for permission before “friending” strangers on social media sites and I will not meet up with strangers I’ve met on-line

I understand that my parents love me and are seeking to protect me from danger.  I risk the following consequences for violating any of the above guidelines:

  1. ____________________________________________________________________
  2. ____________________________________________________________________
  3. ____________________________________________________________________


I hope that this post has inspired you to reevaluate your tween/teens social media usage. Please talk to your child(ren) and establish media guidelines together.

Which guideline(s) did you find most helpful?

Making Health a Priority

“If you put off starting a fitness routine until the time is right, you’ll never reach your fitness goals.” ~ Felicity Luckey



It’s been said that it only takes 30 days to break bad habits and implement new, more positive actions. Today our house embarked on taking a challenge to make healthy choices in regards to eating and exercising.  

We headed out to LadyBird Lake to walk 4 miles around the trail. Walking is better than being sedentary. Gradually we plan to add in some running and gym visits. 

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” Jim Rohn

This anti obesity video which has been viewed more than 3 million times in less than a week also inspired me to make a few life changes not only for me but also my daughter.

I realize it’s sometimes difficult to make changes in our lives, especially with busy work and family schedules. As we make our health a priority I hope you too will make your health a priority this fall.



Factoids About Me as I Prepare for Declare


Oh I do Declare there is much excitement in the air. Last year I attended the Declare Conference in Dallas, TX.  This event greatly impacted my understanding, knowledge, and blogging direction.  I am thrilled to be returning in a few short days as it will be a sweet reunion with dear friends I’ve made through the blogging community.  I always welcome making new friends ;-)  Yep! I’m am a lover of people, AKA, extrovert.

Below are a few other factoids about me as I introduce myself and I prepare to meet new participants at Declare 2014.


  1. I’m a Texan girl.  Howdy y’all!  I was born in Amarillo and have lived in Austin since 1991. I’ve also lived in Germany, Louisiana, Arizona, California, and Virginia.
  2. I’m counting down the days to being married 30 years to Jon.  We have three daughters: Caryn is 25 and lives in Detroit, MI; Courtney is 23 and lives in La Jolla, CA; Cayley is 13 and lives with us ;-) Parenting a decade later is a lot more challenging because of social media.
  3. I passed out during our wedding ceremony only to be caught by my dear husband. The videographer stopped recording so that moment was not captured.
  4. My husband and I accepted Christ together after being married for two years, which completely turned our lives around. Praise Jesus!

My Beautiful Family


  1. I’m a little ADD making it hard to sit still and doing only one thing at a time thus I have lots of projects in various stages of completion.
  2. I’m also somewhat OCD as I can’t work, write, or focus if things around me are messy.  Benefit: I keep a clean house.
  3. I am most expressive with a camera and enjoy capturing moments. I’m obsessed with taking photos of milk art, sunsets, flowers and those I love.
  4. I like to gather information and share it with others, hence blogging.

Just a few of my many #milkart photos


  1. Writing and blogging is a love/hate relationship depending on the day.
  2. On Christmas 2007, my first blog entry read,  “I surprised Cherie this Christmas with her very own blogsite that she can use to share her insights and the wisdom God has given her along the way. -jon”  My hubby is the best.
  3. Because I tend to be a perfectionist, writing/blogging can be consuming. According to my husband, I write like I speak plus it doesn’t help that I am somewhat dyslexic.
  4. I am still trying to figure out the blogging and writing world but I enjoy the opportunity that it has given me to encourage, inspire, and motivate others.


  1. Spending time together with my family. We truly love each other and this makes me happy.
  2. I enjoy traveling the world and making memories.  I especially appreciate seeing God’s creation.
  3. My relationships with others. I appreciate how my life can encourage others through loving them well.
  4. LIFE, which is incredibly beautiful!