Where Are You Going and How Do You Plan to Get There?

Good character

“Lord, remind me how brief my time on earth will be. Remind me that my days are numbered— how fleeting my life is. Psalm 39:4

We all leave a legacy. What will your legacy say about the life you lived ? Lewis Carroll said, “If you do not know where you are going, any road will take you there.” Leaving a godly legacy starts with having an ongoing, deepening and intimate relationship with Jesus. We must first possess that which we desire to pass on. We are to be obedient to God in raising our children, but the outcome ultimately is up to Him. How was I to accomplish the task found in Proverbs 14:1? “A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her hands.” Without a clear direction, one’s past is easily repeated. Determining a plan to redirect your path will keep you on course. As the saying goes, “If you fail to PLAN, you plan to fail.” Seeking to leave a Godly legacy I intentionally pursued a goal-oriented philosophy versus a survival- based philosophy.

What eternal difference are you investing in future generations? More importantly, when you stand before God will you hear the words, “Well done good and faithful servant.” If so, you’ll want to create a clear, compelling vision of what you and your family are about. The values you hold most dear should define your mission. A vague sense of destination leads to over commitment, indecision as to how to allocate scarce time and resources, inaccurate goals either too small or big, and the inability to plan properly.

Agreeing on where you are going is essential for oneness in the family. Look at Amos 3:3 “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” One can see the importance of agreement in this verse: the direction and destination of the walk, the path taken to reach their destination, their speed, and whether to go together. My family has utilized three directional tools, Purpose/Mission Statement, Goal Setting, and Values/Vision Statements.

MISSION STATEMENTS are like a compass, guiding you as you navigate life. Your mission statement is your destination expressed vividly enough so that it motivates you and compels others to want to help you get there. Begin with the end in mind. HOW will you reach your destination and WHY are you going there? Your mission emerges out of a combination of your God-given design and the circumstances of your life. Writing out your mission statement is a process and these steps will help:

  1. Begin with prayer for God knows the plans He has for your life (Jeremiah 29:11) and who wants to labor in vain? (Psalm 127:1)
  2. Ask these questions to help develop a family mission statement
  3. Invest the needed time.
  4. Examine (your past, present and future).
  5. Seek feedback from mentors once completed.
  6. Write out your mission statement. In Habakkuk 2:2 the Lord tells the prophet, …Write down the vision; write it clearly on clay tablets so whoever reads it can run to tell others.
  7. Hang it on the wall to be seen by all.
  8. Live by it thereby staying on course.
  9. Re-evaluate and revise when necessary. Ours is in need of an update as our family dynamics changed two years ago when our older daughters moved away.

This Franklin Covey tool may help you begin the process of building a personal or family mission statement.

The Werner Family Mission Statement

The Werner Family Mission Statement

2005 Werner Family Mission Statement

GOAL SETTING helps you decide how to invest your time, energy, and resources. Goals should be tangible and measurable. Achieving positive outcomes rarely happen by chance. Areas where goals can be helpful include spiritual growth, family (for each child), home schooling, financial, marriage, career, ministry, etc. Learn from your daily experiences and adjust your efforts based on the desired goal and what you’ve learned.

Key ingredients for setting goals are:
WHAT do you desire to see accomplished?
WHY is this important to do at this time?
HOW will you accomplish the “what”?
WHEN will the “how” be done?

Have SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Result oriented, and Time-limited.

Here is an example to help you get started.  Example Goals – Proverbs

VALUES or VISION STATEMENT: Values are those things you esteem and what you give worth to. Values are an expression of your core beliefs. Values determine where you spend your time, energy, and money. Some of our guiding values are our faith, being missional, family togetherness and Godly character. Other values encompass guiding bible verses (1 Timothy 4:12, Philippians 4:8, etc.) Also, many of our values are incorporated into our mission statement. Proverbs 29:18 “without a vision people perish.” King Solomon declared the need for vision… a sense of direction and destiny. The contrast seems clear; perish or flourish; wander aimlessly or stretch forth purposefully.

I found this extremely helpful Determining Core Values Project by FamilyLife Today

We are all on a journey through life. There are many destinations clamoring for our attention. With so many options, we must begin with the end in mind for each day takes us toward some destination. The decisions made today will impact your future, what you become and how your loved ones remember you. “A righteous man will be remembered forever.” Psalms 112:6b

Making Health a Priority

“If you put off starting a fitness routine until the time is right, you’ll never reach your fitness goals.” ~ Felicity Luckey



It’s been said that it only takes 30 days to break bad habits and implement new, more positive actions. Today our house embarked on taking a challenge to make healthy choices in regards to eating and exercising.  

We headed out to LadyBird Lake to walk 4 miles around the trail. Walking is better than being sedentary. Gradually we plan to add in some running and gym visits. 

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” Jim Rohn

This anti obesity video which has been viewed more than 3 million times in less than a week also inspired me to make a few life changes not only for me but also my daughter.

I realize it’s sometimes difficult to make changes in our lives, especially with busy work and family schedules. As we make our health a priority I hope you too will make your health a priority this fall.



Factoids About Me as I Prepare for Declare


Oh I do Declare there is much excitement in the air. Last year I attended the Declare Conference in Dallas, TX.  This event greatly impacted my understanding, knowledge, and blogging direction.  I am thrilled to be returning in a few short days as it will be a sweet reunion with dear friends I’ve made through the blogging community.  I always welcome making new friends ;-)  Yep! I’m am a lover of people, AKA, extrovert.

Below are a few other factoids about me as I introduce myself and I prepare to meet new participants at Declare 2014.


  1. I’m a Texan girl.  Howdy y’all!  I was born in Amarillo and have lived in Austin since 1991. I’ve also lived in Germany, Louisiana, Arizona, California, and Virginia.
  2. I’m counting down the days to being married 30 years to Jon.  We have three daughters: Caryn is 25 and lives in Detroit, MI; Courtney is 23 and lives in La Jolla, CA; Cayley is 13 and lives with us ;-) Parenting a decade later is a lot more challenging because of social media.
  3. I passed out during our wedding ceremony only to be caught by my dear husband. The videographer stopped recording so that moment was not captured.
  4. My husband and I accepted Christ together after being married for two years, which completely turned our lives around. Praise Jesus!

My Beautiful Family


  1. I’m a little ADD making it hard to sit still and doing only one thing at a time thus I have lots of projects in various stages of completion.
  2. I’m also somewhat OCD as I can’t work, write, or focus if things around me are messy.  Benefit: I keep a clean house.
  3. I am most expressive with a camera and enjoy capturing moments. I’m obsessed with taking photos of milk art, sunsets, flowers and those I love.
  4. I like to gather information and share it with others, hence blogging.

Just a few of my many #milkart photos


  1. Writing and blogging is a love/hate relationship depending on the day.
  2. On Christmas 2007, my first blog entry read,  “I surprised Cherie this Christmas with her very own blogsite that she can use to share her insights and the wisdom God has given her along the way. -jon”  My hubby is the best.
  3. Because I tend to be a perfectionist, writing/blogging can be consuming. According to my husband, I write like I speak plus it doesn’t help that I am somewhat dyslexic.
  4. I am still trying to figure out the blogging and writing world but I enjoy the opportunity that it has given me to encourage, inspire, and motivate others.


  1. Spending time together with my family. We truly love each other and this makes me happy.
  2. I enjoy traveling the world and making memories.  I especially appreciate seeing God’s creation.
  3. My relationships with others. I appreciate how my life can encourage others through loving them well.
  4. LIFE, which is incredibly beautiful!