Family Fun = A Mother’s Day

Oh My!!! The Girls Visit, Joan Uyvari’s Wedding, My 50th Surprise Birthday Celebration, and Then The Dreaded Good-Byes

Last Monday 4/29 was one of the hardest days for me as a mother as I again sent both older girls back to their perspective homes. Honestly saying good-bye does not get any easier.  I know many of you have little ones so this day seems eons away :-) as it did for me once upon a time.  God was gracious in blessing Jon & I with precious Cayley as I enjoy being a mom and well it would be hard to have an empty nest.

The occasion for my girls visit was the wedding of their dear high school friend.  However, as a family when opportunities present themselves to be together we cram in as much fun and celebrating as possible.  For twelve short days we played hard and had lots of fun staying up late, eating, walking and talking.

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Caryn arrived April 17th so for 4 days we eagerly visited her favorite Austin restaurants, walked around Town Lake, and soaked in as much sunshine as possible given this was her first winter experience in Detroit as she desperately desired sunshine.  We dropped her off in Waco on the 22nd to be available to help Joan with last minute wedding details and setting up Joan & Jason’s new home. Then we had special time with Courtney and David, an incredible young man in tow, who arrived on the 23rd thus sending us out on an Austin sightseeing adventure of visiting our previous homes and many of Courtney’s favorite places to reminisce, a Town Lake walk, as well as visits to some of our favorite eateries (Amy’s, Chuy’s, Salty Sow, etc.) plus lots of talking and laughing as we became better acquainted with David.

Friday the 26th of April we drove to the destination wedding which was in Sulfur Springs, TX about 90 miles NE of Dallas in the middle of the country.   Joan and Jason truly have an incredibly unique love story along with the most unusual dating experience as they dated for ten minutes and were engaged for almost twelve months while Joan was in Thailand finishing a masters program and Jason was working in Dallas.  363 days after meeting, Jason Huang and Joan Uyvari became husband and wife in the most God honoring wedding I have yet to attend. My entire family was part of their wedding.  Jon and I did some of their pre-marital counseling, Caryn was a bridesmaid/ photographer, Courtney sang during communion, and Cayley carried an umbrellas saying, “here comes the bride,” who gracefully appeared on a horse.   Read their story and view their engagement photos taken by Caryn here. The wedding took place outside on Joan’s father’s farm property set beside a picturesque pond followed by a reception in the barn. The weather forecast all week showed rain but so many interceded in prayer and it was the perfect day for an outdoor wedding – cool with cloud cover allowing the sun to occasionally peek through as if to smile upon the ceremony.  The couple washed one another’s feet, worshipped God, and then they recited their vows to each other that they wrote.  Those in attendance could sense the presence of the Holy Spirit in all the small details.  I have some of the photos on my Facebook page album 1.

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Sunday I was with my entire family :-) as we drove back to Austin together.  As a mom I desired to use that time to get to know more about my girls and David so we played a game I made up where we each would ask a question that everyone answered.  I now know everyone’s favorite candy bar, coffee drink,  movies, life changing book, meal, travel destination, song, etc…  As we spend time getting to know each other we can then be purposeful to better love one another.  Spending time together is just one way I feel loved and thought of by my girls.  Visit me over at MomHeart where I share practical ways to thoughtfully recognize, bless, appreciate, and/or honor your mom, mother-in-law, and the many mother like figures throughout the year as EVERYDAY IS A MOTHER’S DAY but wishing you a blessed day.

Love & Blessings

Pain Is Inevitable, but Misery is Optional…

“Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional. We cannot avoid pain, but we can avoid joy.” Tim Hassel

Currently my Energizer Bunny pace has greatly decreased as a result of chronic back pain and an unexpected foot surgery which has me using crutches and an air cast boot for about four weeks.

I am choosing to view this down time as an opportunity to rest, read, and refocus my life direction.  I jokingly have called this season my “half a century tune up,” as I turn fifty in May.  It’s my desire to get my body in better shape so I can be more productive for God’s kingdom work in the years ahead.

James 1:2 Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.

Did you noticed that James used the word “when” and not “if” in regards to trails we will encounter?  Yet so often I am surprised when difficulties come my way.  Honestly my first response to trials is usually not joy but I have learned to look for the joy amidst hard times.

A few things I’m choosing to be joyful for include: God’s word, the availability of my in-laws during this time of need, Cayley’s servants heart, Jon being in town, how quickly I am recovering, the wisdom of my health care providers, health insurance, handicap tags :-) , friends, music which eased my pain, etc…

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Tim Hassel said, “Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional. We cannot avoid pain, but we can avoid joy.” In this life it’s a guarantee we will encounter trials whether relationally, financially, physically, mentally, etc..  but how are we, as believers, to handle these trials?  When we respond with joy verses “poor me,” it will cause an unbelieving world to take notice.

I appreciated the wise words of Andrew Murray, who suffered from a terribly painful back injury. I find comfort from the below story.

One morning while he was eating breakfast in his room, his hostess told him of a woman downstairs who was in great trouble and wanted to know if he had any advice for her. Murray handed her a paper he had been writing on and said, “Just give her this advice I’m writing down for myself. It may be that she’ll find it helpful.”

This is what he had written:

“In time of trouble, say,

‘First, He brought me here. It is by His will I am in this strait place; in that I will rest.’

Next, ‘He will keep me here in His love, and give me grace in this trial to behave as His child.’

Then say, ‘He will make the trial a blessing, teaching me lessons He intends me to learn, and working in me the grace He means to bestow.’

And last, say, ‘In His good time He can bring me out again. How and when, He knows.’

Therefore, say ‘I am here (1) by God’s appointment, (2) in His keeping, (3) under His training, (4) for His time.”

How are you responding to the trials in your life this week? Do you find joy in your current trial or are you resentful and angry?  What lessons are you learning or have you learned?  Praying that you choose to find the joy verses misery. Blessings.

 

 

Not My Will but Yours, When He Knows Best

Wow! what a day.  Colossians 3:15  And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful.

My foot surgery was canceled today and rescheduled for tomorrow causing me to rethink my day.  I decided to get a badly needed hair touch up (hahaha) knowing I wouldn’t be able to make my Tuesday appointment due to the change of events. As  I was leaving the salon my doctors office called informing me the doctor had the flu plus an ear infection. Someone once said,  ”If you can’t be thankful for what you receive, be thankful for what you escape.”  

My surgery was being postpone till Tuesday :-(  I asked if the doctor was doing surgery on Monday as it would work best since my wonderful in-laws drove in 2/26  to help me get my footing.  The doctor had a 4 hour surgery scheduled for Monday and couldn’t do another.    So my time was set up for Tuesday afternoon.  Two hours later they call again saying the Monday appointment canceled so they would be moving me to Monday.  Needless to say today has been a roller coaster ride of fluctuating emotions with me trying to stay positive and know all things work together for good.

Some things I can be thankful for. 1) Jon returns home tomorrow at 8pm allowing us to enjoy the weekend together ;-) with my in laws.   2) I have had plenty of opportunities today to pray, practice patiences, trust, extend compassion for my doctor and his office staff, as well as being grateful for all things. 3) There are a few events I can attend this weekend. 4) Jon will be with me on Monday when I have my surgery. 5) My in laws are here. 6) I am able to learning how to use the crutches; 7) more time do read, relax, and do misc. plus 8) I was able to plant these beautiful terrariums which makes me happy.

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I like what T.D. Jakes said, “That thing that is NOT coming to you may seem good. But either the timing is wrong, or from His position He can see that the future of it is bleak. I have always believed that people who thank God only for delivering them from what happened are just scraping the surface of praise. The real praise comes when you start thanking Him for what could have happened but didn’t because of His swift grace! 

I am humbled and thank you Lord for knowing what is best for me and when.