About cheriewerner

Welcome to Missional Living. My name is Cherie, it rhymes with Marie :-) I am passionate about encouraging women in their roles as wives and mothers. Today there are many opportunities clamoring for our attention so we must be purposeful knowing the legacy we desire to leave behind by living intentionally.

Halloween, What’s a Believer To Do?

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Halloween is an event that often causes a passionate response from believers. Many wonder whether or not they should observe this holiday but the responses are divided. There are those who feel complete freedom to partake in Halloween festivities along with the pagan symbolism such as witches, ghosts and goblins. Then, there are others that regard this day as evil and choose to have nothing to do with it. Some folks find a happy medium, choosing to take advantage of the evangelistic opportunities by sharing about Jesus to those who come to their door seeking candy. Personally, my family has ….

Join me over at The Art of Domesticity to read more ;-)

Come back next week for a more in-depth study regarding Halloween.

Where Are You Going and How Do You Plan to Get There?

Good character

“Lord, remind me how brief my time on earth will be. Remind me that my days are numbered— how fleeting my life is. Psalm 39:4

We all leave a legacy. What will your legacy say about the life you lived ? Lewis Carroll said, “If you do not know where you are going, any road will take you there.” Leaving a godly legacy starts with having an ongoing, deepening and intimate relationship with Jesus. We must first possess that which we desire to pass on. We are to be obedient to God in raising our children, but the outcome ultimately is up to Him. How was I to accomplish the task found in Proverbs 14:1? “A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her hands.” Without a clear direction, one’s past is easily repeated. Determining a plan to redirect your path will keep you on course. As the saying goes, “If you fail to PLAN, you plan to fail.” Seeking to leave a Godly legacy I intentionally pursued a goal-oriented philosophy versus a survival- based philosophy.

What eternal difference are you investing in future generations? More importantly, when you stand before God will you hear the words, “Well done good and faithful servant.” If so, you’ll want to create a clear, compelling vision of what you and your family are about. The values you hold most dear should define your mission. A vague sense of destination leads to over commitment, indecision as to how to allocate scarce time and resources, inaccurate goals either too small or big, and the inability to plan properly.

Agreeing on where you are going is essential for oneness in the family. Look at Amos 3:3 “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” One can see the importance of agreement in this verse: the direction and destination of the walk, the path taken to reach their destination, their speed, and whether to go together. My family has utilized three directional tools, Purpose/Mission Statement, Goal Setting, and Values/Vision Statements.

MISSION STATEMENTS are like a compass, guiding you as you navigate life. Your mission statement is your destination expressed vividly enough so that it motivates you and compels others to want to help you get there. Begin with the end in mind. HOW will you reach your destination and WHY are you going there? Your mission emerges out of a combination of your God-given design and the circumstances of your life. Writing out your mission statement is a process and these steps will help:

  1. Begin with prayer for God knows the plans He has for your life (Jeremiah 29:11) and who wants to labor in vain? (Psalm 127:1)
  2. Ask these questions to help develop a family mission statement
  3. Invest the needed time.
  4. Examine (your past, present and future).
  5. Seek feedback from mentors once completed.
  6. Write out your mission statement. In Habakkuk 2:2 the Lord tells the prophet, …Write down the vision; write it clearly on clay tablets so whoever reads it can run to tell others.
  7. Hang it on the wall to be seen by all.
  8. Live by it thereby staying on course.
  9. Re-evaluate and revise when necessary. Ours is in need of an update as our family dynamics changed two years ago when our older daughters moved away.

This Franklin Covey tool may help you begin the process of building a personal or family mission statement.

The Werner Family Mission Statement

The Werner Family Mission Statement

2005 Werner Family Mission Statement

GOAL SETTING helps you decide how to invest your time, energy, and resources. Goals should be tangible and measurable. Achieving positive outcomes rarely happen by chance. Areas where goals can be helpful include spiritual growth, family (for each child), home schooling, financial, marriage, career, ministry, etc. Learn from your daily experiences and adjust your efforts based on the desired goal and what you’ve learned.

Key ingredients for setting goals are:
WHAT do you desire to see accomplished?
WHY is this important to do at this time?
HOW will you accomplish the “what”?
WHEN will the “how” be done?

Have SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Result oriented, and Time-limited.

Here is an example to help you get started.  Example Goals – Proverbs

VALUES or VISION STATEMENT: Values are those things you esteem and what you give worth to. Values are an expression of your core beliefs. Values determine where you spend your time, energy, and money. Some of our guiding values are our faith, being missional, family togetherness and Godly character. Other values encompass guiding bible verses (1 Timothy 4:12, Philippians 4:8, etc.) Also, many of our values are incorporated into our mission statement. Proverbs 29:18 “without a vision people perish.” King Solomon declared the need for vision… a sense of direction and destiny. The contrast seems clear; perish or flourish; wander aimlessly or stretch forth purposefully.

I found this extremely helpful Determining Core Values Project by FamilyLife Today

We are all on a journey through life. There are many destinations clamoring for our attention. With so many options, we must begin with the end in mind for each day takes us toward some destination. The decisions made today will impact your future, what you become and how your loved ones remember you. “A righteous man will be remembered forever.” Psalms 112:6b

Being a Mom, My Greatest Joy

Dr. Kevin Leman forgiveness, legacy, hope,

Like many women I know, I was brought up unprepared for the challenges of motherhood. In return, I did not seek after it with much enthusiasm. I was afraid of what might happen if I were to bring children into the world because I was filled with anger and bitterness from my own childhood. Every child longs for love, acceptance, comfort, and approval and I am no different. When these needs are unmet, a child/young adult will seek to have them met in things such as drugs, sex, control, money, success, or unhealthy relationships. Thankfully, I encountered the only person who could give me unconditional and perfect love, acceptance, comfort and approval and that was Jesus Christ. He gives freely and without any strings attached. His redemptive love rescued me on February 25, 1987 when my husband, Jon, and I together accepted Christ. I received exactly what I needed to begin the journey of motherhood as I was given the Holy Spirit to teach and guide me (John 14:26; 16:13). In time I forgave my parents as it did me no good to harbor bitterness or resentment toward them. Dr. Kevin Leman says, “Forgiving is not saying what happened was okay and it’s not excusing it, but it is allowing something new to grow.” Today I am able to celebrate new beginnings.

2 Corinthians 5:17 (CEV) Anyone who belongs to Christ is a new person. The past is forgotten, and everything is new.

How exciting my past need not limit my ability nor yours to be a godly mother, that’s the beauty of the Christian life. You may not be able to change your past, however, by being proactive you can change the legacy you leave. Recently my mother praised me saying, “Cherie, I’ve turned you away from me; just like my mother did to me. I wish I could have broken the cycle before it affected you and your sister. I’m grateful that you have not continued the same cycle with your daughters; this makes me really proud. Maybe it will end with you? ” Sadly, her choices limited our relationship for many years. I celebrate that my choices are to build relationships with my daughters and leave a better legacy. I in no way can take credit for the changes that have occurred in my life. In my weaknesses, God is strong. Instead of facing inadequacies alone, I have learned that, “My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth” (Psalm 121:2). Where we may feel ill equipped, God is there to be our strength. After all, like the old adage goes, “God doesn’t call the equipped, He equips the called.”  God’s word is a critical tool in preparing us for our calling as mothers. I chose to be in God’s word, study it, meditate on it and live it out. More importantly seeking and desiring an intimate relationship with my Maker broke so many chains as I discovered who I was in Him verses my family of origin, In Christ my life has purpose and meaning.  I celebrate that God’s word gives direction and as we are faithful to follow Him, we hope our children too, will follow in our footsteps thus breaking the bondage of generational sins. Psalm 119:105

I purposed to be a mother based on biblical principles instead of social norms or past experiences. This choice lead me on a journey completely different than I ever experienced or envisioned. Along the journey, God placed spiritual parents in my life to help strengthen and teach me as I traveled the journey of motherhood. I am thankful for these amazing individuals that discipled me by investing in my life personally. When I was unable to find encouragement face to face I realized it could be found through books, conferences, and classes for a season. The point is you want to grow and thrive in your relationship with Christ by replacing wrong thinking with truth. I was challenged to stop complaining about what I didn’t have, but instead shape my legacy with what I did have via a mission statement asking what do I wish to pass on to my children?  I celebrate that with God all things are possible even leaving a godly legacy. Matthew 19:26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

Being a mother has been one of the greatest joys in my life, certainly one worth celebrating. I am in awe that my two eldest daughters have both graduated from college and are living amazing lives that are bringing glory to God as they seek to serve Him. I am so proud of them. They are obedient and respectful of others and us. They challenge me with their walk and love for God. They have been some of the best teachers in my life. My youngest daughter continues to grow and mature as I seek to lay a solid biblical foundation for her by making sure she knows and loves the Lord.  My greatest joy is knowing that my children are walking in the truth and following Jesus with their whole hearts which is biblical (2 John 1:4).  What more could I want as a mother?  I celebrate motherhood and the three precious gifts that God blessed me with, as children indeed are a gift from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Psalm 127

Oh I have so much to celebrate as I was given the opportunity to be a mother and, together with Jon, we have raised a godly heritage. I see the fruit of our labor and celebrate that with God all things are possible even for a reluctant mother like I was. My hope is to encourage those traveling the journey of motherhood feeling ill equipped.

As a mother what desires do you have for your children?  Read 2 John 1:4, “It has given me great joy to find some of your children walking in the truth, just as the Father commanded us.” What can you purpose to do that would set your children on the right path to walk in truth?