I am passionate about growing old with my husband. It’s my desire to intentionally journey through life with him and see Ephesians 5:22-23 lived out. I want my marriage to be a representation of the relationship between Christ and His church. When people look at my marriage, I want them to see a picture of Jesus. While I certainly do not have this perfect, 28 years of marriage has given me some practice. I hope that the following is able to leave you with a few pointers on how to cultivate a healthy and thriving marriage.
Be committed to your own personal and spiritual growth.
It is tiring to try to change someone, especially when the only person you can change is yourself. I cannot and should not try to change my husband. Thus, being committed to my own personal and spiritual growth is extremely important. To become more Christ like I’ve developed various habits and disciplines such as studying God’s word, having quite time, listening to the Spirit, praying, and having accountability. To become a better wife, mother, friend, etc., I’ve sought wisdom from God’s word, how to books, bible studies, classes, counseling, and mentoring relationships. I still have lots of room for growth. Personally, I think that marriage is less about being married to the right person and more about becoming the right person.
As Jon and I each have a vertical focus, one of drawing closer to God, we actually become closer to each other equaling oneness. (Image courtesy of http://shoestringtightrope.com/)
Romans 12:2 “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”
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