Last month I had a vivid dream about my two oldest daughters. I dreamed that the plane they were traveling home on from India crashed. I saw them standing before their Creator with such immense joy and Him delighting in them and I sensed God lovingly whisper, “Cherie MY daughters died living.” I knew the point of this dream was Caryn & Courtney were doing what they were created to do, they did not view this world as their home, and they would have no regrets if they were to die today.
With tears I awoke and wondered how many of us never really live because we are playing it safe? How many of us quench the voice of God in our children, as we desire for them to pursue the safe American dream? We tell them love the Lord and follow Him but first– get a college degree, get a good paying job, get married, you can be a missionary but just not there, etc… GUILTY
If you are like me when your children came into the world you thought look at MY child and began dreaming what their life would look like. However my thinking in purely seeing my girls as mine began changing after Jon and I took a financial class where we asked to signed over ownership of everything we thought we owned to God – our home, cars, saving account, and even our children. Stewardship defines our practical obedience in the administration of everything under our control, everything entrusted to us, especially our children. Our greatest job as Christian parents is laying a solid biblical foundation for our children by making sure they know and love the Lord, thus providing for their well being even after death. 1 Corinthians 4:2 says “it is required in the stewards that one may be found faithful.” So what does that look like? It should look different for each of us. As parents we are to be obedient to the Spirit’s leading, as God didn’t design us as cookie-cutter families. He desires uniqueness and obedience on our part that comes from whole-heartily seeking His will for our families and each child entrusted to us.
Being in God’s word is so vital for us moms, because as we are spiritually nourished we can pour into our children and feel more confident in our job. I am studying the book of Isaiah this year and have found so much encouragement.
Isaiah 40:11 He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.
I love this verse as it reminded me that He is leading me. I am so thankful that my older girls love the Lord and often times I wonder how they got to where they are as my husband and I both are first generation Christians. There are things I wish I could have done and said differently but He lead me on the journey of parenting them just as He is leading me today with my 10 year old and He is leading each of you moms. My job was and is to seek the good shepherd.
A visual God gave me was that when my children come into the world I was holding on to them like this with clinched fists, as I didn’t want them to get hurt so I was going to protect them. I wasted lots of energy trying to be in control. As a faithful servant I am learning that my grip needs to be more like this with open hands, especially as my older girls have left our nest. Letting go has been a trust and faith building time in all of our lives.
When the girls were young I had them learn and put into practice 1 Timothy 4:1212 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.
It was my desire for them to do great things, to live fully for Jesus and be obedient to His calling. Guess what that’s exactly what they were doing and I was questioning them, call me crazy but it looked different than I imagined and different than what others were doing. Mom’s this is why we must have a vertical focus.
My girl’s obedience, tenacity, and love for Jesus is growing my faith as I watch them running hard after Him having a complete vertical focus. As my faith increases so does my trust because He is trustworthy.
Over Christmas break my girls were in India working with students from a country that is one of the world’s least evangelized nations and where persecution occurs. Unbeknown to us, thankfully, until my girls returned home, something unexpected did happened. The team was headed to the airport to the destination where they would be training. On the drive to the airport the car both my girls were in swerved (in an effort to avoid hitting a rickshaw) and crashed into a tree. They were minorly injured…and their our local friend broke his nose….but Jesus healed him too. Given the speed and congestion it is a wonder that no one got more seriously injured. Here is the cool part, when they hit the tree, Caryn said she saw 4 angels in front of the car and thousands of demons screaming behind the angels. God was totally protecting them!”
During my quite time Monday I came across this verse Pslam 34:7 it say “The angel of the LORD encamps around those who fear him, and delivers them.” AMEN!
Indeed God was protecting them and has continually done so. I can praise the Lord that He knows every detail of their lives and this includes the day He will usher them into His presences. They both will finish college this year and who knows what the future holds? I trust that because they daily seek Him in his word and prayer He will direct and they will be faithful to follow. David Platt said, To everyone wanting a safe, untroubled, comfortable life free from danger, stay away from Jesus. The danger in our lives will always increase in proportion to the depth of our relationship with Christ.” As their mom I pray I too will walk in obedience of letting them go joyfully, willingly, and prayerfully because as a steward of my children I will be called to give an account.
The ultimate reward for moms is not money, prestige, or fame but knowing that our children lives are firmly planted on the truths of scripture and that they trust and obey Him.
In closing I echo what Paul said in 1 Thessalonians 2:19-20For what is our hope, our joy, or the crown in which we will glory in the presence of our Lord Jesus when he comes? Is it not you? Indeed, you are our glory and joy.